Understanding
Triangulation.
When conflict pulls a third person into the middle.
What it can mean
Some people describe this pattern as triangulation. It can involve bringing a third person into a conflict in ways that create pressure, competition, or divided loyalties. Not every conversation involving others is triangulation; context and patterns matter.
Notice the pattern
You might recognize this when…
You may recognize some of these patterns in your own experience.
- ✳You’re repeatedly asked to take sides
- ✳People communicate through you instead of directly
- ✳Siblings are compared against one another
- ✳You feel responsible for keeping other people happy
- ✳You’re pulled into conflicts that aren’t yours
Recognizing a pattern doesn’t automatically tell you why someone behaves this way. Context matters.
A question to sit with
“What happens when you try to step out of the middle?”
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